Core Learnings From the Life-Planning Workbook

Peggy & James Vaughan

You have the power to change your life for the better.

It is not necessarily simple and it will not always be easy—
it will always be possible.

You have the capacity to think clearly—
to put your life in perspective—to act on sound values—
to live responsibly and well.

You are a worthy person with the right and the ability
to choose your own course.

You can probably have anything you want,
but not everything you want.

You are not your past, but you are a product of it.

Who you are may be your parents' fault,
but if you stay that way, it's your own fault.

No parents are perfect; most do the best they can;
in the process they do some things well and some things poorly.

The truth is, many people have shaped you into the person you are today,
but you have the opportunity and responsibility of determining the person you will become.

If you ever hope to take full responsibility for your life,
you must come to an easy acceptance of your past and
the way it has shaped you.

You are a potent person with a rich set of experiences.

You are a survivor. You are a learner. You are unique.

No one looks at the world exactly the same way you do.

The way you view the world and what's possible is
a function of what you've learned and experienced—
and the way you put it all together.

In a few important respects, we are all the same.

We share the same basic needs.

We all have the same amount of time—
24 hours a day—to pursue our goals.

The way you focus your attention makes all the difference.

You energize yourself with good choosing and depress yourself with poor choosing.

Awareness is crucial to good choosing,
but movement is the key to effective living—
knowing which awareness to act on and when to move on.

We all change—choosing and changing are inevitable.

Not to choose is a choice. Not to change is impossible.

The choices you make every day—big ones and little ones—
determine the quality of your life today and
your possibilities for the future.

Work is as natural to human beings as play.

You need both all your life.

Find the work you can be passionate about.

Find the play that enables you to be a good animal—
fit and supple.

The roles you play are one way you think of your self-image,
but they do not define your essence.

We all suffer loss—the only question is how you will deal with it when it comes your way.

You can learn and grow from it or
you can feel sorry for yourself and diminish yourself.

Nietzsche was right on this one:
"That which does not kill me, strengthens me."

Values do matter—they are at the heart of everything we do.

Your values ultimately determine who you are and
who you will become.

We are all social creatures—
we define ourselves in and through our relationships with others.

Energy and inner joy come from focusing your time on people, things, and activities that you care about.

You create meaning in your life by living according to your deepest values.

Things take time.

There are no short-cuts to most worthwhile goals and
no quick fixes to many of our problems.

Realistic planning is one of the keys to solving problems and achieving goals.

Life is tenuous.

The wise course is to pursue your highest priorities now.

Happiness comes to those who pursue meaningful goals of their own choosing
and assume full responsibility for the journey.

Life presents us with many obstacles and opportunities.

Sustaining focus and balance in the face of all the demands on your time and energy is an awesome challenge.

Potential is not your problem; you have more than enough potential to do what you want.

What you need is to get great clarity about what's important
and organize your life to pursue those things effectively.

Goals are important to purposeful living,
but they need not be written in stone.

Remember the proverb, no matter how far you've gone down the wrong path, turn back.

You will get off course—and that's OK;
imitate a modern jetliner—stay focused and make many small course corrections.

There's less likelihood of overcorrecting and
the ride will be smoother.

Acknowledge your ability to block yourself from reaching your goals—then don't do it.

Be kind to yourself.

You are not alone—others will help you pursue your dreams.

You sometimes need to ask them clearly for the help you want.

Go for it; dare to live life to the fullest.

Everyone experiences some good things and some bad.

The challenge for each of us is to put it all in perspective—
to be nurtured by the good—to learn from the bad—
to let it go—to go ahead.

Everything is connected.

Keep learning and remember rule #6.

What is Rule #6?

© 1995 Peggy Vaughan and James Vaughan, Ph.D., Based on the Life-Planning Workbook

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